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Thursday, June 30, 2005

be positive!!

My question is.. where is our social conscience?

Most of the people of this world have adopted a very passive “it’s none of my business” attitude, which is frankly driving the world down the drain.


If we see someone doing something wrong,…. Shouldn’t we do or at least say something? Whether this something is affecting us directly or not?


If it doesn’t today, it might tomorrow.

I hear a lot of people saying , well it’s none of my business, or yeah it’s wrong bu what are we gonna do about it? Or “saying something won’t really change anything. My word is not gonna change the world.” Or the famous “people won’t like me if I preach them” although the last is not said out loud.

Come on, do your part!! If every one does their part , things will change.

Imagine if the norm is that anyone who does something wrong would be reproached, scolded or reacted to from anybody who knows his deed?
Nobody would do anything wrong so easily anymore, and if they do they will hide it. This applies from the smallest of children to the biggest of nations!!

Here is an example:
A friend of mine was telling me yesterday that she gets so angry at work because of all the things that are done wring there, but she wouldn’t say anything because she said nobody would tolerate her.
She told me that for ex. She saw a nurse at work dumping the rest of a drinking bottle of water out of the window for no good reason. She told her that this is waste and 7aram. Fresh water is a problem as it is in Egypt. And the nurse did not take it well.

I told her, imagine if everybody else who saw her said the same thing like you, she wouldn’t be able to do it, nor be upset.

Nobody said speaking up for the rights in this world is easy, but like everything good in life, we have to work for it. So what if you are not super popular among some people who want to persist in doing whatever they are doing. You would be popular with yourself, God and anyone who appreciates the good and right in this world.

If you know someone is doing something you know is wrong, and you never show it, advise them, or react, then excuse me I am sorry to say you are a hypocrite to your values and self, and not doing the person who is doing the act any favors. ( and of course you are not helping the wronged)

Not reacting to someone who does something wrong would just encourage them, and more, they would never feel they did anything wrong; everyone loves me anyway, so I can’t be a bad guy; that is what he/she would think.

After a while an “everyone is doing it” attitude is gonna start and so on and so on and we all know how this goes.

Of course, there is a way to do it. We can tell someone something without necessarily being offensive, preaching or condescending. Constructive criticism goes a long way. Nevertheless, if someone is being really evil or bad especially if they are hurtful to someone else, I say I would not be careful with my way to as not to offend him. Let him be uncomfortable!! (this last is my personal opinion, might be wrong or non-constructive, but it is how I feel).

God has ordered us to be positive and speak up for the right and just. One of our characteristics as an Islamic nation in quran is el 2amr be el ma3rouf we el nahy 3an el monkar, which means claiming and ordering what is right and good, and reproaching the wrong.

Also there is a hadith that means to say who sees a wrong, let him change it with his hand, if he can not, then by his tongue, if he can not then by his heart, and that is the weakest of the faith. This has given us the leeway pardoning if we are going to be hurt if we speak up (and I don’t mean by hurt someone rolling their eyes at you, I mean really hurt.) and God knows what is in our hearts and will judge justly when we really can and can’t do something.

So why not be positive and speak up for the just and right?

Sometimes I dream and wonder;
What would this world be like if everyone spoke up for the right?

I bet it would be a great place to live!!!!

4 Comments:

  • At 7/02/2005 7:08 AM, Blogger LouLou said…

    Doshar,

    Am not very popular with a lot of people because I can't keep quiet if something bugs me. Don't know if it's social conscience though. That would be taking too much credit. I think am just too spoilt to tolerate anything I don't like without making my displeasure felt.

    However you need to be careful when you tell people they're wrong because what you see as wrong other people might not. You can't force your personal standards of right or wrong on everyone.You wouldn't like it if you were on the receiving end of that kind of interference if you didn't see what you were doing as wrong.Do unto others etc...

     
  • At 7/02/2005 12:33 PM, Blogger doshar said…

    yeah, you are right. that is why there are ways to do it, sometimes subtle. for ex. i might say i feel bad because i did so and so (which coincidentally is close towhatever the others did) and therefore by criticizing myself might indirectly show them that it is wrong. God knows there are alot of things i felt i did wrong when i saw others do it and being blamed. i think "hey i do that, am i wrong?" it at least starts you thinking.

    just don't look the other way completely. do what you can.

    and of course there are things that no two people (whoa are sane and not just stubborn) can disagree upon their righteousnes. like being rude to others, lying, cheating, etc.

    and yes i am sometimes uncomfortanle when someone interferes like that, but it is more that i am upset because i don't want to feel i am doing anything wrong than because of the interference it self. we just say so to our selves so as not to face the criticism. facing one's faults is one of the most difficult and couragous things to do. it involves feeling guilty, which is very hard on the soul, and therefore we try to run from it by finding excuses or blaming the bad feeling on the person who blamed us.

    and sooner or later late at night beofre you go to sleep, you might feel maybe i should stop what i am doing.

    i am not talking about things that just bother us in other people, like the way they chew their food or how they talk or how they deal, if it is not 7aram, just annoying, we actually should be tolerant. i am sure not everything we do is liked by others.

    also, if it involves someone hurting someone else, i don't care if they feel it is interference. they did not care for the feelings of whoever they wronged. and whoever is wronged needs someone to speak up for them.

     
  • At 7/02/2005 12:48 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    mmmm...

     
  • At 7/22/2005 1:45 PM, Blogger Shirazi said…

    Your prose is very good.

     

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